here's the brutal truth about divorce:
you don't know who you are married to until you get a divorce!
Starting my divorce was a rollercoaster ride, just like it is for so many others who've been through it; I thought I would be able to complete it within six to twelve months. I did not have anyone to warn me what was to come! I did not realize then that the light at the end of the tunnel was an oncoming train! It seemed like my divorce would never end - five years of back-and-forth, eight different attorneys, and four court appearances. The final one? The Court of Appeals.
Why did it drag on for so long?
NOBODY TOLD ME WHAT I NEEDED TO KNOW!!
Did I mention I worked with eight attorneys?
Did I also mention I was self-represented in Two of my Four court appearances?
I made the same mistakes most people make in divorce, mistakes that could easily have been avoided had I received the right advice from the beginning. Had I known what I know now, my divorce would have been infinitely easier and less expensive.
My divorce is categorized as amongst the top 1% of litigious divorces; I received a complete and thorough practical education on the entire divorce process from A to Z.
I came out to help others.
THIS IS WHAT I FOUND
Hesitation, fear, and ignorance cost you a fortune in divorce. We all make mistakes, but when it comes to the end of a marriage, they are brutally expensive.
Very few divorce professionals understand how to navigate a narcissistic divorce!!
If you decide to put this statement to the test, be ready to pay three or five times or more what it should really cost. Also, be ready to spend three, five, or even ten years battling back and forth.
📚 The truth is that the playbook for divorcing a narcissist is entirely different than 95% of all divorces. This is why, typically, people get lousy advice, which turns into bad decisions and out-of-control costs.
I have never met an individual who understands what's coming. Mistakes are always made, and they are very expensive.
I know I am divorcing a narcissist if my spouse:
✅ Contradicts me relentlessly, no matter how irrelevant my opinions are
✅ Works to isolate me from friends and family
✅ Turns our children against me
✅ Lets me know I am never good enough
✅ Must have her way or the highway
✅ Makes me walk on eggshells
✅ Transforms from hero to victim on a dime, depending on the situation.
✅ A charmer in society and conqueror at home.
✅ Regularly puts me down and minimizes my achievements
✅ Accuses me of exactly the same things they themselves do?
✅ Deny events even when they know I was present and witnessed everything - AKA gaslighting?
✅ Do they threaten with divorce frequently to square you into obedience?
✅ Do you feel like their source of energy and supply rather than a spouse?
✅ Do they diminish and insult you on social occasions?
The top reasons for divorce are
✅ Infidelity
✅ Too much arguing
✅ Substance abuse
✅ Financial problems
👨🏼⚖️ There is much preparation to be done before calling for legal help. A narcissistic divorce need not cost an arm and a leg.
❤️🩹 There is no such thing as a simple divorce, but a high-conflict divorce with a narcissist is a whole other level of TOUGH. It's hard to think of another life experience that compares to divorcing a narcissist.
🫤 Merely arriving at the decision to ultimately part ways is a journey that typically spans three to five or even more years for the majority.
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🤹. Break free from self-doubt and uncertainty, and move forward with confidence.
Divorce is not just the end of a marriage; it is a life-changing event that can leave you feeling isolated, confused, and unsure of what to do next. Friends and family may mean well, but often their advice falls short because they cannot truly understand what you are going through. And on top of that, there is still a stigma attached to divorce that can make you feel ashamed or embarrassed to talk about it openly.
It's no wonder that many people choose to suffer in silence, dealing with their divorce alone. But it doesn't have to be that way. As a divorce mentor, I am here to be your ally, your sounding board, and your thinking partner. I will help you navigate the complex emotional, legal, and practical issues that come with divorce.
Even the simplest of divorces can be complicated, but when high conflict is involved, the situation can be overwhelming. That's where I come in. I have helped many people like you through this challenging time, and I can help you too. With my support, you can avoid common mistakes, make informed decisions, and emerge from your divorce stronger and more confident than ever.
Don't reinvent the wheel by going through divorce alone. Let me be your guide and help you through this difficult journey.
Navigating a divorce can be an incredibly disorienting experience. It can feel like you've been transported to a completely different planet where the usual rules no longer apply. Everything that once made sense now seems foreign and confusing. But you don't have to go through it alone. As a divorce mentor, I can help you make sense of this new world and create a personalized roadmap to guide you through the journey ahead. Together, we can look to the future and move forward towards a brighter tomorrow.
Navigating a narcissistic divorce demands far more than the mechanical processes of a typical legal separation. It calls for nothing short of mastering "The Art Of Divorce."
"It is only one who is thoroughly acquainted with the evils of Divorce that can thoroughly understand the profitable way of carrying it on."
Adapted from The Art Of War by Sun Tzu
How does a divorce mentor save you money
As your divorce mentor, I'll provide guidance to help you navigate your unique journey and gain clarity about the transition ahead. By understanding the road ahead, you'll be equipped to make informed financial decisions.
Going through a divorce can be a financial nightmare, especially if you don't have the right guidance. I should know - my own divorce cost me a small fortune in six figures. Looking back, I realize that much of the financial waste was due to my lack of knowledge about the system, taking bad advice, and making poor decisions. But the good news is, as your divorce mentor, I can help you avoid the same mistakes and make the best financial decisions for your future. Together, we can create a roadmap for your unique journey and ensure that you have the clarity and guidance you need to succeed.
adopt a new frame of mind
One of the most challenging life adjustments anyone may go through is divorce. Many individuals experience extreme emotional suffering and stress, leaving them feeling lost and alone. But during this trying time, cultivating a curious mindset can have a hugely positive impact.
By looking at how changing your way of thinking can help you handle divorce more easily and why working with a divorce coach can be so beneficial.
It's common to feel like you're losing everything after a divorce. However, changing your viewpoint and developing a curious mindset can help you reframe your thinking and uncover new solutions you previously would not have believed were possible. You can begin to see divorce as an opportunity for growth and transformation rather than as something you're losing.
I have found that exploring a sense of spiritual curiosity during the divorce journey can be an invaluable aid in navigating the emotional terrain with greater ease and grace.
Begin to release attachment to the past and focus on the present and the future.
Time to Cross that Bridge
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the benefits of a coach
As your divorce coach, I bring a wealth of experience to the table. I understand that divorce is not just a legal process, but an emotional, financial and social one as well. That's why I take the time to really get to know you and your unique situation - I already have a very good idea of what your life has been like over the last few years, and what it may look like in the years to come. And with that knowledge, I can help you see things from new perspectives and consider viewpoints you may have missed on your own.
Dealing with divorce can be overwhelming, and it's not uncommon to feel stressed, anxious, and even dreading the process. But you don't have to go through it alone. I'm here to help you navigate this difficult time and clear the mental fog that can make it challenging to move forward. It would be an honor for me to guide you through this process and help you come out the other side stronger and more confident than ever. So let's work together and make this journey a little easier for you.